Is it true that Fat people almost never find love?

I was watching an episode of Cold case , the story is about a man found dead, he shot himself and he had just been watching a video of this chick(fat I guess you can say). Almost immediately all the investigators dismissed that it could be love. It was so hard for them to believe that this guy a hottie could fall for this fat girl. In the end they discover that this guy is a small time crook who steals from these ladies BUT it is this lady who started him on killing them as well.

That is not the point though because in the end it seems like he did love her, the point is throughout they spoke of these ladies as if they have some “don’t touch me” disease.

This reminds me of an incident in varsity. I was going out with this guy, I liked him a lot and he seemed to like me. Infact I would go as far as to say he loved me, ok maybe for a while anyway. So a friend of mine sees him at some lecture and is told that he is my boyfriend and next time she sees me she tells me, “He is so cute, you better watch out. Skinnies will steal him away. You better watch out”. I mean is my ability to keep a man satisfied diminished just because I am not a size 32. Anyway he was “stolen away” to use her language, not by a skinny girl though.

But it’s this mentality in society that makes people to doubt themselves. If you don’t look a certain way you cannot possibly be loved, if you don’t talk a certain way. I mean come on or to be.

Don’t get me wrong it is important that we be healthy, that we exercise but body size and shape is different for everybody. I am born with a certain set of genes that controls what structure my body will take, how tall I will be and how my features are arranged on my face.

I know the media mostly reflects what society is but if this gets perpetuated and acceptable in all realms of society imagine the damage it can do.

This is not the first time this stereotype is portrayed on our screens.

Remember how Shallow Hal had to be under some spell to love that chick. What I hate as well is that we find it hard to believe that a man could actually love a fat woman, sometimes I find myself with that mindset in the past years wondering what is wrong with this guy. I never use to, in my teens I had this super duper boyfriend who truly loved me (but I went to varsity and wanted to try out some jerks) and I always thought “If this man is asking me out, he must truly love me, cause I don’t have a beautiful body”. Notice how I say beautiful body cause back then (this was mid nineties) beautiful wasn’t skinny, it was average size. Infact skinny girls were made fun of just a much.

No wonder there is such an outrage from fat people, basically we are being rejected, society is saying we cannot be lovable. No wonder there is so much fat appreciation/acceptance sites and blogs(beautiful definition here). These are some of my favourites:

• Big fat deal
• Shapely prose
• babble- recently stumbled upon this one:as in yesterday, also keeps a database of positive image site
  

A part of me think this is good that we stand up against this abuse as next thing you know we will regress to the point of rejecting narrow faced people or large forehead people.

Don't get me wrong I am not saying people should disregard what they put in their bodies but they must to a degree disregard what they look like. If you are eating healthy and you are active why should there be so much pressure to be a certain size.

This health/fat love dilemma has been in me since I was maybe 13. I got into a debate with my parents and ended up shouting "What is so wrong with being fat anyway?" and that is the first time I remember my father saying "What is wrong with it is your health"(here is a great counter to that argument). But I was healthy, that started me on this road, the one of fighting my size and wishing to be something I am not. Instead of the focus being on exercise, getting out there and playing more instead of watching TV, it was on you should look like this. You should eat less, when really I might not have been eating that much differently from other kids.

No this is not me bowing out of the fatloss road, this is me saying I should be whatever size my body wants me to be. This is me saying the focus from now on is on being strong, flexible and able to run(cause I love running).

Glycemic index eating proves credible

I have been a strong believer in low glycemic index eating since 2005. When I went to a dietician and she actually prescribed a diet that follows low glycemic index eating. I lost weight on that and I don't remember being hungry.
Basically there are foods that are absorbed quicker into the body and cause your insulin levels to rise, these are the foods to avoid. How we should be eating especially to lose weight is eating low glycemic index foods. I read an article where they interviewed Patrick Holford and he went into details about about following a low glycemic diet and using food to heal the body's ailments, which is similar what the science of being well is preaching only that you heal yourself period with your thoughts.
Then I read an interesting blog post by Bruce Cohen where he talks about a book that smashes all beliefs about obesity. Where the author(Gary Taubes) of Good calories, bad calories highlights and blames "refined carbohydrates, starches, and sugars" for most morden ailments including obesity. Which ofcourse all ties in well with the South beach diet as the the first stage eliminates almost all these and maintanance uses good carbs and limited sugar.
I'm sold on limiting cabs but not on forgeting exercise as apparently all it does is make you hungry. Nope I think exercise is good especially if you don't lead an active lifestyle. If I climbed four floors of stairs to the office and walked the dog in the afternoon and chased my daughter in the park then I would not worry about devoting time to exercise but I need it and it works I have seen it. Problem so far I have been halfhearted, losing, gaining and losing and lately breaking leg and sitting for 6 weeks. Such that today my gym calls telling me I have not been to the gym this month I need to check with my medical aid and notify them why I can't go to gym or else I loose my benefits of lifetime membership at R650. See I have to go 24 times in a year. I explain to this girl that the medical aid expalined it as take number of times that I went to gym devided by 12 months, that must be greater than two. Nope the lady says, I agree to call the medical aid then she goes on to ask me if I know a family by the same name as mine....Why do people do that. Anyway she was wrong.......But I will be back at gym it is just this leg problem. I can't wait to be back at gym if only to swim. I miss swimming and thats it.......if I had a warm pool where I stay I would probably not go to gym. I would walk/jog and go to the pool.

In this part of the world

I am back home in the Eastern cape for the festive season and I tell you people are big this side of the world. A friend of mine visited with her sister yesterday and my mom asked when she left “how far along is she?” She’s not far, cause she’s not pregnant, just fat, the tummy is huge. Her sister as well was double the size I last saw her in 5 years ago. I attended a wedding and bigness rules, a 10 year old as big as an adult. I was probably the same at that age so I should just keep quiet about it. While cooling off after the wedding my mother comments again about her second cousin who is humongous, at the end she says “…..you must do something to not get to that”. I am much lenient on my mom lately because in the past I would have snapped at her. She says the cousin use to exercise and was on her way of linking being way overweight now with having started exercise. So I explain how I think with each baby most people just put on weight. The cousin has had 4 already and just came back bigger after each one. I think the way we eat around here contributes to this phenomena, we eat mostly mielie-meal. Almost everything has mielie-meal. Other starches are loved but mielies is the favourite. Now that we work in offices and don’t farm like our ancestors we end up never burning the fat. I would say 50% of people in the Eastern cape are fat, not just chubby but fat.Statistics for the country(supplied by South African society for obesity and metabolism) reveal that 45% of the South African population is overweight. This was in 2006, I am sure they are much higher now. So having seen an aunt of my mom's at the wedding walking with crutches because of elephantiasis, she's diabetic and apparently she will have an amputation. I was inspired to do something. What though is it that i can do that I have not tried before? I was thinking control of what I eat as I know for a fact that limiting cabs works for me. I just did not have the discipline to carry it through. How on earth will I do that with all this mielies around me. Like now the pot for supper is mieliepap with sour milk. I love that meal......Damn I will have to think of something. I want my health, I want my body healthy, I want to live long. Forget small waistline, just being able to run and be fit . To be strong and use my body as an instrument, a tool.